2008 Woodie Awards
Devil's Advocate
Weekly advice with a devilish twist
Issue date: 2/20/08Section: Features
Dear Devil's Advocate,
I am a smart, attractive, and funny woman and I love my family and friends with all my heart. But they are starting to get on my nerves because they are bugging me to try to find a boyfriend. My mom keeps saying, "Why don't you find yourself a nice boy to spend some time with?" I know she just wants me to be happy, but it's getting annoying. I keep telling them that I don't want one and that I am happy being single. I mean, I'm not going out of my way not to get a boyfriend, but I figure that if I am meant to get one, it will happen by itself. Right now, a boyfriend just doesn't fit in with my life plan. I am career-mined, and I probably wouldn't have much time for a boyfriend. Anyway, how do I get them all to stop bugging me about this?
Signed,
Annoyed Anita
Dear Annoyed,
In this case, the old adage, "your happiness is all that matters" is 100% true. Good for you! Being an independent woman and not dating a guy simply for the sake of trying to land a man is something to be proud of, and just because these older women don't understand that a woman of the 21st century could be happy single, doesn't mean you have to submit to their antiquated way of thinking. Tell your family that it bothers you when they try to invade your personal life, and that your shining, confident personality will surely attract the right guy when the timing is right. Ask them if they'd be interested in hearing about your progress in school, or any new activities you've engaged in lately. Ask them if they truly believe life is all about keeping yourself busy until a guy comes along to swoop you into domestic bliss, and if they'd like you to flush their tuition money down the drain by focusing all your attention on their submissive nonsense. Tell them you are a strong, charismatic woman and you have no desire right now to settle down. Explain that working hard to ensure the best future for yourself is your number one priority, and they should be proud of how ambitious you are.
I am a smart, attractive, and funny woman and I love my family and friends with all my heart. But they are starting to get on my nerves because they are bugging me to try to find a boyfriend. My mom keeps saying, "Why don't you find yourself a nice boy to spend some time with?" I know she just wants me to be happy, but it's getting annoying. I keep telling them that I don't want one and that I am happy being single. I mean, I'm not going out of my way not to get a boyfriend, but I figure that if I am meant to get one, it will happen by itself. Right now, a boyfriend just doesn't fit in with my life plan. I am career-mined, and I probably wouldn't have much time for a boyfriend. Anyway, how do I get them all to stop bugging me about this?
Signed,
Annoyed Anita
Dear Annoyed,
In this case, the old adage, "your happiness is all that matters" is 100% true. Good for you! Being an independent woman and not dating a guy simply for the sake of trying to land a man is something to be proud of, and just because these older women don't understand that a woman of the 21st century could be happy single, doesn't mean you have to submit to their antiquated way of thinking. Tell your family that it bothers you when they try to invade your personal life, and that your shining, confident personality will surely attract the right guy when the timing is right. Ask them if they'd be interested in hearing about your progress in school, or any new activities you've engaged in lately. Ask them if they truly believe life is all about keeping yourself busy until a guy comes along to swoop you into domestic bliss, and if they'd like you to flush their tuition money down the drain by focusing all your attention on their submissive nonsense. Tell them you are a strong, charismatic woman and you have no desire right now to settle down. Explain that working hard to ensure the best future for yourself is your number one priority, and they should be proud of how ambitious you are.
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