Q: I can honestly say that I never came to college with setgoals and an ultimate plan. But right now I’m really starting tofeel the pressure because it’s my junior year. I have a major andeverything it’s just that I’m not sure if it’s the right major. AndI don’t want to be in school forever, so I’m not gonna change it. Idon’t even like the class part of school; if it weren’t for thesocial aspect of college, I wouldn’t even be here. What do I do?I’m basically sunk for the rest of my life.-Finding Me
Dear Finding,This may come as a shock to you but a great number of your fellowSJU classmates have absolutely no idea what they want to do. So, ifit makes you feel any better, you’re not alone. The fact thatupperclassmen have declared majors does not mean that they havetheir lives planned out nor does it signify their happiness andsatisfaction within those majors. Although the administration wouldhate to read that you “don’t like the class part of school” and areonly here for its “social aspect,” I am going to encourage you totake that realization and run with it.So, you don’t like classes. Then college may not be for you, forclasses are a major component of college life. If the social sceneis more your thing, then maybe you should try your hand at a jobthat puts you in the center of it all like club promotions or KROQ”street team” type jobs. However, I must also point out that youmay not find eternal happiness in such a position. Granted, thosejobs are lots of fun, but you will always be working under thedirection of someone else, and such a subordinate position canultimately become a pain. And this is where the importance ofcollege comes into focus.Nobody (except an elite studious few) actually get a kick out ofgoing to class.Lectures and labs are simply tedious means to a desirable end.Everyone must pay their dues and do what it takes to earn thedegree that will hopefully put them in a position to do whatever isthat makes him or her happy.So, don’t think of your unhappy confusion as being the final scoreof the game. You’re just a normal college student.
Q: This is going to sound really weird, but I’m finding myselfattracted to a freshman. It’s really not that big of a deal; it’sjust that I’m a graduate student, and he is actually a friend of mylittle sister – who is also a freshman. Is this normal and should Ipursue it? I don’t have to worry about my sister having a crush onhim or anything (I asked her and she told me she didn’t), and Iknow for a fact that he is “of age” (He’s 18). When we first met, Ididn’t even know that he was a freshman. He’s articulate, and mostimportantly, very mature for his age. I really like him. Whatshould I do?-The Similiac Bartender
Dear Similiac,You’re situation is quite common, and yes you should pursue it.As long as the kid is old enough to vote, then that’s all thatmatters – and even that is not all that important; you’ll just haveto know your limits and where to draw the line in the activitiesthe two of you do together. But that’s okay.Because the boy is a friend of your sister, I really appreciate thefact that you took the possibility of her having feelings for himinto consideration; that’s very thoughtful on your part. Since ithas been established that she does not, then maybe she’ll even bewilling to hook you up.Bottom line: It’s not all that different from any other boy/girlrelationship. If you are attracted to this individual, do not letan age difference turn you off.
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