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Millenial Think: The Dangers of Dating Online

Swipe left, swipe right, swipe left, swipe left, double tap, swipe left, swipe right, swipe left… it sounds like the cheat code to a 90s video game. In actuality, the repetitive finger gesture might just lead you to your future valentine.

College students across the country have been using mobile dating apps for years to find casual sex, brief flings and sometimes even serious relationships, revolutionizing how dating exists on a university campus.

Apps like Tinder and Bumble turn the complex process of finding a compatible mate into what is essentially a calculator mini-game.

In a matter of minutes, a student can reject or accept hundreds of potential matches. To make it even more convenient, the apps use your GPS location to show you matches that are never more than a short bike ride away.

While there is a lot of appeal to the instantly gratifying and stress-free carnival of mobile dating, there are a few hazards to be aware of.

The repetitive appearance-based “yes and no” decisions can easily distort the users’ personal values, and force them into a relatively superficial mindset.

It’s also often an activity that favors the photogenic, and can leave some users with a substantial blow to their self-esteem. In addition, it can lead to unwanted outcomes, including cyber bullying, sexual health risks and potentially dangerous private encounters.

If students are aware of what they’re getting into, mobile dating may be a great option for them.

If you prefer meeting new people while you’re lying in bed in your pajamas—or in any other stress-free environment—dating apps offer possibilities that the “real world” can’t mimic.

If you’re a numbers person, you’ll also realize that these apps are incredibly time-efficient, and offer a near unlimited count of potential local matches within seconds, and for free.

If the opportunity seems enticing, I encourage you to go for it. There is no shame in trying, and these apps would not be so popular if they didn’t work.

Once you’re mindful of the gambles, go on a swiping spree and decide if the fast-pace-digital dating world is right for you. Love could be right at your fingertips.

 

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    Asia MinolaJul 26, 2019 at 1:08 pm

    Great article, and so true! In fact Online Dating has become hugely popular while increasing in recent years to where experts are estimating that 40% of relationship today start online. By the year 2025 that is supposed to increase to 50-60%. Amazing. There are tons of wonderful and safe online dating sites (both free and paid), if you are careful and use common sense. Be sure not to disclose personal contact information until you verify the person on the other end is REAL, GENUINE and SAFE! (via Skype or some other visual means). Paid dating sites of course offer additional premium features such as built-in surveys and personality tests, but we suggest starting with Free sites that avoid the fluff and concentrate on what‘s most important; That is open, unlimited communication so you can find that perfect partner in the shortest time possible! We have tested and reviewed almost all the top dating websites and 2 of our favorite FREE sites include POF.com (not niche-specific includes all demographics) and http://www.Filipino4u.com (Asian singles and Western/English men).
    Remember, be safe and smart out there! Stay tuned as we will be providing additional detailed reviews of our favorite dating sites.

    Asia Minola, MA
    Online Dating Coach – Relationship Counselor
    UNLV – BA Sociology

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